Can I still love my body and want to lose weight through Intuitive Eating with guest expert Stephanie Dodier

This episode is for those of you who have been on your Food Peace Journey for awhile. You’ve shifted the morality of health and radically rejected diets. But, there’s a but. Do you find yourself yearning for your smaller body and wonder how all of that desire fits? Let’s examine how your brain is processing all this with guest expert Stephanie Dodier.

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(237) I feel addicted to food while trying to recover with intuitive eating and making peace with food.

Do you describe yourself as a food addict? Frustrated with your food obsession? I have made this Love Food Podcast episode for you. Let’s unravel what is going on, sift through what you need, and make new connections.

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Dear Food,

I know exactly when our journey began. I had an anonormally skinny ballerina body and had gained a few pounds over the summer. I knew what I had to do. My parents always did diets so I figured it was just a part of growing up. Little did I know that losing those few pounds would lead to a horrible relationship with you and an unhealthy amount of weight gain. I used to not think about you. When I was bored, you weren’t the first one I went to. You were fuel not an addiction. Never in a million years would I have thought I would be where I am now. I have drifted so far and our relationship is so weak. I hate you but love you at the same time. You control me and I cannot contain myself around you. I’m addicted. You control my thoughts and take up my whole life. The more I pull away, the more I am attracted to you. I’m not sure why I go to you. Maybe it’s my low self-esteem, or my body image issues, or my constant want and need to look like society’s beauty standards. I feel that you are an escape I have to run from my toxic thoughts about my body because no one else cares. I feel like I cannot even continue my daily life because of the hold you have on me. I hate myself because of you but I can’t stop going back to you. I’ve tried to limit you but our relationship seems to get worse and worse. You were enjoyable, now I dread you. I’m fearful of what you will do to me. I’m fearful of how far I will go with you. You used to be a natural instinct that didn’t matter to me, now I can’t go five minutes without wanting you or thinking about how you ruin me. I guess the truth is…you aren’t the problem. Its me. I abuse you. I hate myself so I become overwhelmed and run to you. I’m not sure why I go to you. It seems counterproductive, but I’m in hopes of finding out why you have such a hold on me. I am guilty after going to you. I am humiliated, even if no one else knows. All I want is a healthy relationship with you and my body so I can move on with my life.

Sincerely, a girl who needs help

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(236) How do I find clothes that fit while trying to make Intuitive Eating work? Anti fat bias, compassion, and life rejecting diet culture with Nic McDermid.

Rejecting diets in a body that doesn’t feel acceptable is exponentially hard. How do you access the world, find clothes that fit AND reject diets? We hope this episode featuring Nic McDermid gives you the compassion you deserve and the fuel you crave.

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Dear Food,

You have been a big part of my life for more than 50 years, comforting me in pain , sharing life successes with me .  I grew to love and hate you as a child and adolescent, and my struggles with restricting you have continued throughout my life. I have tried to control  you to have a smaller body and yet it has never been maintainable as I have always eaten more of you to end up at a higher weight  and larger clothing  size. The last 2-3 years the up and down body size roller coaster we have been on has slowed down and this body that I have now has been more or less the same size , but I am not happy with it and still long to walk into a clothing store and find a variety of clothes that fit me. 

Instead I hate shopping and always end up eating more of you or  comfort versions of you to stop the pain and shame I feel not being able to find clothes that fit.  It doesn’t help to live in Spain as I find larger sized clothing is even harder to find. I have gained and lost the same number of  lbs over and over but always come back to this weight, and body size, and I still deal with choices of you daily . I must eat too much of you which I think contributes to my maintaining this larger  body and yet the portions of you and the exercise I do should add up to having a smaller body. 

This year I found the intuitive eating book and am working through the workbook. I am also finding more and more health at any size websites and support groups. I am learning to stop eating when I am full and I am not binging anymore for years now, and I exercise regularly . For my 61 years I am in pretty good shape but I just struggle with finding clothes I feel comfortable in and wish for a smaller sized body , and not the hard to find size that I wear now. 

I also feel that the aches and pains I have daily with this body would be less with a smaller body and I would have more energy, and my doctors have told me repeatedly to drop weight  every time I go to an appointment . I am having knee replacement surgery soon and this body size concerns me. 

Anyway Food, I seem to be stuck here and not sure how to work with you so I can lower my body size, I don’t have visions anymore of being a super model or an unrealistic size. I just want to be able to buy clothes easier and feel better in what I wear, and have a healthier body image. 

I am  not obsessed with your details and watching your calories anymore or tracking you as I have been for  years but instead trying to eat just enough of you, enjoying your taste and not restricting myself . I know I need you to give me nutrients and keep me alive, so this relationship is lifelong,

I would just like to find a balance with you and this larger body I have. 

love 

Still Dreaming to be Smaller

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(235) I am struggling with the weight gain that has come with Intuitive Eating while living with a chronic condition like PCOS, high cholesterol, diabetes.

Are you getting a message that weight gain means you are doing it wrong?  Diets preach weight loss for health and then tell us that if their rules don’t work it is on us not them. You are not a failure if or when you gain weight. If you struggle with moving away from diets and need more insight to fuel your Food Peace Journey, you are in the right place.

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Dear Food,

For probably my entire entire life I have used as a scapegoat to avoid my divided and toxic family life, my fear of relationships and men, and the excuse as to why I can’t keep the weight off. 

After my brother passed unexpectedly this year and after mindless eating to numb the pain of his absence I seeked out some help from a therapist. I am still in therapy and I was able to unblock myself with the numbness. This is where you came in Food. I was no longer using you as a source of comfort anymore. Alongside this journey I decided to read the Intuitive Eating book that Julie Duffy Dillon put on her must reads syllabus section. I read it slowly and realized even more that you don’t really bring me that source of comfort anymore or really the satisfaction. In fact I had face so much without you in just a matter of 3 months. I had to face the reality that my brother is no longer here, that I used you to numb myself to the point where I didn’t know what I was feeling, and that I fed myself the wrong foods to keep myself fat so men would leave me alone. I say this because when I have been at a lighter weight I did not feel comfortable at all with the attention. I felt vulnerable in my new body. Fat is all I have ever known. I was a wallflower and invisible to men. Once I wasn’t I was back at the binging and the weight crept up, although on a conscious level I was so upset about this. 

I know all of this sounds crazy but I had such a huge insight in such a short amount of time. I began to take care of myself, but I am really struggling with something: PCOS. I really want to build a strong and healthy relationship with my body. My body is completely out of balance because I feel it at a cellular level. Because I had gained almost 15 lbs from the loss of my brother my PCOS symptoms came back. I don’t weigh myself anymore but I do want to lose some weight so I can get off medication and re-stabilize my hormones. I just feel like all the information out there about nutrition and PCOS is so contradictory. I don’t know where to start. I find myself getting into diet mentality and I fight myself mentally constantly, especially lately. I don’t feel at peace and this concerns me. I have stopped exercising because of this mental stress too. 

I ask you Food, what am I really supposed to do? Am I supposed to be ok with the fact that maybe my PCOS Is always going to wreck havoc on my health? Am I supposed to be ok with being large and constantly fighting to stabilize my hormones. I’m only 26, and I am so fatigued. I really don’t care what the scale says anymore, what I want to know is: what exactly am I supposed to do? I honor my hunger but I noticed some days I barely eat. I logically do not think this is ok since I have PCOS. Idk if I can trust my body fully because of the PCOS. Instead of going around in circles, does intuitive eating really work for PCOS? Are carbs really what is making my hormones insane or gain a few extra pounds? I just feel so lost. I want to get out of this. I want to heal my body and my soul. I want to heal my PCOS naturally and I want to be ok with you Food. I just hate how healing PCOS equates to weight loss. I think this may be the issue. I just feel like I am always going to lose when it comes to PCOS. 

Sincerely,

Lost Cyster. 

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(234) I want to stop emotionally eating.

Open up a google doc, you are going to want to take notes! What you have been told about emotional eating is keeping you stuck. You may be surprised to learn what insight it brings while being with this superpower. If you struggle with emotional eating, wonder how to move forward using intuitive eating or anti-diet approaches, this episode is for you!

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Dear Food, My relationship with you has changed so much over the years and I am grateful for that.We do have a positive relationship now, most of the time.  I enjoy you, I savor you, I appreciate you and give gratitude. I don’t need to count calories or think of how much exercise needs to be done to rid you from my body.  But, I still use you as a drug and that angers and frustrates me.  You have calmed me for years when I didn’t have any other tools. But I am tired of not having other tools. I am tired of turning to food to deal with life’s daily stressors. I am ready to give you up and learn new life skills, but I feel stuck. I fall into entrenched patterns of using food to push away any discomfort, whether big or small. I know it makes me unhappy and doesn’t solve my problem.  But I don’t believe that any other strategy will work as well. I am so convinced that nothing will work as well as you, that I don’t even try other skills.  Sure, I have used other strategies from time to time, but I always fall back to food.  I get so tired of the suggestions “got take a walk, read a book, take a shower” to avoid emotional eating.  How does anyone do that at work? I can’t leave a meeting or stop working with students to do that.  Anyway, you can see how frustrated it makes me that I still turn to you, but I feel so stuck sometimes.   You can calm me so quickly; bites of chocolate or extra servings of pretzels eaten so fast – and I am calmed… When stressed, I eat way more than I need.  But you don’t make me happy in the long run. Sure, I feel good for a few seconds, but then I feel blah, physically and mentally. Once again, asking myself “why did I do that again?” “why did I eat more than I needed?”  The cycle continues, eating too much, having an upset stomach, feeling bad about it, telling myself I screwed up,  tight pants and on and on…. How can I end this? How can I stop this cycle of using food as a drug? How can I stop eating emotionally? I am fed up!! Please help. 

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