(129) I can’t love my body because I hate it.

You know diets don’t work. Do you gravitate toward the body positive message yet hung up on one thing…

You don’t love your body because you want to lose weight. You find your body unacceptable.

There is a way through this. Listen now for insight.

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Key Points:

  • Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help. Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com.
  • If you feel like a failure because you can’t lose weight or keep it off, know you are not to blame. Diets have failed you.
  • Dieting predicts weight gain.
  • Dieting promotes the idea of body hate and conditional acceptance.
  • Does a deeper understanding of diet culture, its toxicity, and manipulation make you angry? Stay with it!
  • It’s ok to not accept your body.
  • You are acceptable the way you are today. The end. Your body is acceptable no matter what.
  • Oprah Winfrey joined weight watchers and Julie’s mind was blown to see diet culture and its reign make one of the most amazing women also feel not enough.
  • First step: work on RESPECTING your body.
  • Challenge the false truths.
  • Claim your space and find those who agree with body positivity.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I’m trying to embrace my body but finding it difficult in this moment. (Ep 109 with Haley Goodrich)

Have you struggled with yo-yo dieting, weight cycling, and weight gain? Are you trying to embrace your body, but finding it difficult in this moment? Listen now to hear Haley Goodrich and I tackle this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes we may struggle with a disconnection from our body. Instead of listening to our internal cues, we focus on external measures like calories and other numbers. But we have to move away from this to find authentic health!
  • The world is still really stuck in diet culture, and so we have to guard ourselves against the messaging around us!
  • Support is ESSENTIAL to this process, especially from clinicians that understand Health at Every Size.
  • We have to be sure that we’re getting ENOUGH food every day, and that we’re finding satisfaction from our food experiences in order to feel truly satiated.
  • In this diet culture world, we actually might be UNDER eating! This can make our bodies think we’re starving, which leads to bingeing. Make sure you’re eating enough and eating a VARIETY of foods!
  • It’s also important to make sure that we’ve fully made peace with ALL foods! This is a part of intuitive eating, and will help you to balance your eating behaviors. Having true permission to eat can transform your relationship with food and can even help you to honor your body overall, which can help support body acceptance and body respect.
  • Common aches and pains happen to people in ALL body sizes! If someone blames your knee pain on your size, they’re being fatphobic, PERIOD!! By allowing your body to be where it wants to be, you’re actually giving yourself the best opportunity to heal.
  • All of diet culture is about MONEY!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

What will it take for me to have a normal relationship with food? {Ep 108}


Are you ready to let go of the food rules and embrace body acceptance, no matter your size? Is it time to cast aside the myths we’ve learned through diet culture about what we eat and what we look like? Listen now as I respond to a letter from someone ready to take those next steps.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • You CAN have a normal relationship with food! How do you do that? By placing the blame where it belongs: with society.
  • We live in a world where people judge body size, and where people make assumptions about what we eat based on our size… but this isn’t a true representation of the various experiences that people in ALL bodies have!
  • Most people of size are actually some of the MOST disciplined people out there due to years and years of trying to diet.
  • Weight Watchers just announced a special, free summer program for teens. This is a problem!! Dieting is the number one precursor for eating disorders, and the summer is a particularly vulnerable time.
  • The food we eat doesn’t dictate our moral value!
  • Losing weight and maintaining a smaller body size is about trying to find acceptance from the culture around us… but in reality, diets don’t provide long-term, true acceptance!
  • Diets give us the hope that we’ll be finally treated with respect and be able to participate in our lives to the fullest extent, in ways that we couldn’t before the weight loss. But this is a fantasy! First, losing weight doesn’t grant us these things automatically. And second, diets fail. Long-term intentional weight loss is virtually IMPOSSIBLE! And the diet industry knows it. They COUNT on repeat customers.
  • The blame is not on you. It’s on our world’s fatphobia. But there’s no simple cure for eradicating weight bias! So what have we got to do? We as individuals have to join together and take a stand, and that starts with acknowledging our own internalized fatphobia and rejecting it.
  • Practice respect and compassion with yourself, continue to place the blame on our society, continue to deconstruct your own bias, and eventually you’ll come to a place where you can call out the fatphobia around us. This is how we change the world for generations to come!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

I feel so much shame around my binge eating and I can’t stop. {Ep 107}


Are you struggling with binge eating? Listen now for my tips to overcome shame and break out of this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • People who binge are often overcome with shame, but shame doesn’t promote real and effective change! But there are ways to find Food Peace™ if you’re struggling with binge eating.
  • YOU don’t need to be fixed. The WORLD needs to be fixed!
  • Our eating choices aren’t largely about personal responsibility… it’s bigger than that.
  • Shame contributes to the compulsive feelings we may have around food. If we can cast aside that shame, we can move closer to health. But how do we take away our shame? It starts with embracing ourselves for exactly who we are, and giving ourselves permission.
  • What would happen if you gave yourself permission to binge eat or compulsively eat? Permission and respect will help strip away the shame associated with the behavior.
  • We don’t have to love where we are right now in our body size or our behavior, but we can make room to accept these things and embrace body respect.
  • Your weight doesn’t matter! You can’t tell anything about someone’s health by looking at their body weight.
  • Internalized fatphobia is likely contributing to this shame you’re experiencing with binge eating. That means you need to break down this fatphobia, rather than pursue weight loss for health.
  • Weight loss is not a behavior. We have no long-term control over our weight. The more we try to lose weight, the more disconnected we become from our internal wisdom, the more shame we feel, and the farther from health we get.
  • Our body is WAY more complex than calories-in-calories-out! Food is so much more complex than good food and bad food.
  • Until you feel like you have unconditional permission to eat, ANY nutritional adjustments to our diet won’t stick! Plus, unconditional permission to eat will likely result is a more varied diet, which is more highly correlated with good health.
  • As parents, there are some things we can do to promote healthy eating:
    • Provide a variety of foods.
    • Have consistent meal and snack times to help with predictability.
    • Teach kids the pleasurable side of food.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

The Love Food Podcast Episode 55

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Do you feel that you’ve made peace with food, but are still struggling to make peace with your body? Have you gained weight on your anti-diet, intuitive eating journey, and are now trying to work through your emotions related to this weight gain? Are you feeling a loss from letting go of dieting? Listen now for some ways to get started on body peace and diet mourning.

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Key Points:

  • National Dieting Month has reached its end! CHEERS!
  • Don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review!! It really helps people who need to break free from dieting find the podcast and begin their journey to find food peace. Thank you to everyone who has left a review so far!
  • For those of you early on in your intuitive eating journey, this letter writer lets us know that part of intuitive eating is learning that eating past fullness is uncomfortable, and therefore it just isn’t something we usually do when we have a healthy relationship with food. Sometimes we eat past fullness to be sure, it happens! But that isn’t the norm, and it doesn’t fill us with guilt anymore when we do eat past fullness.
  • Recovery takes time… it’s a marathon, not a sprint! Connecting to your body can feel unsafe or uncomfortable in early recovery, so be patient when trying to tap into your intuition.
  • Healthy eating includes flexibility!!
  • The only way to learn how to rely on your own hunger, fullness, and satiety cues is trial and error.
  • Intuitive eating = mindful eating = attuned eating.
  • You are allowed to eat things JUST BECAUSE. Unconditional permission to eat is a super important part of intuitive eating, but it can be the scariest!
  • Sometimes through intuitive eating we find that foods we were obsessed with during our disordered days are foods that we actually don’t even like.
  • There is often a mourning process when we let go of dieting because dieting sells us the lie of a perfect, happy life. But don’t avoid that grief! Feel what you’re experiencing, and remember that this feeling won’t last forever.
  • Seek out leaders in the body acceptance community to help you work through this grief.
  • The next step is embracing the social justice aspect of diets, and fighting for marginalized groups in the body peace movement.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.

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