(123) My past trauma keeps me bingeing (with Amy Pershing)

Have you been been making steps towards body acceptance, but find yourself stuck when it comes to letting go of certain eating behaviors? Perhaps, you are one of many of those with an eating disorder who has suffered from trauma? Listen to this week’s episode with special guest Amy Pershing as she helps guide listeners along their recovery journey so that they can begin their healing process from trauma.

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Episode’s Key Points:

*Content Warning: discussion of sexual abuse

  • Special guest Amy Pershing, licensed clinical social worker and founder of the Body Wise binge eating disorder recovery program and the Hunger Wise program as well as author of Binge Eating Disorder-The Journey to Recovery and Beyond.
  • Many individuals who experience eating disorders have a history of trauma.
  • Our culture has not recovered from its own eating disorder. When we are capable of making some steps forward in our culture’s recovery from its eating disorder (and acceptance of all bodies), we can begin creating space to process our individual trauma so that healing can happen.
  • Trauma, particularly sexual trauma, makes an individual feel as though their physical being is not okay.
  • We must begin challenging cultural narratives that perpetuate body hate/fat phobia, such as that an individual’s size predicts their health (spoiler alert: NOT true), in order to allow this trauma work to be able to take place.
  • Additionally, filter your environment/social media: “If an image makes you feel bad, don’t consume it.” ~Amy Pershing
  • Healing from an eating disorder includes honoring what the eating disorder/food behaviors has done for an individual’s survival as well as adding tools, in addition to food, to one’s toolbox for coping.

Show Notes:

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How do I deal with all these feelings when not emotionally eating?

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Have you numbed out using emotional eating or binge eating yet now finding ways to stop? Sounds great, right?!? Not so fast: How do you tolerate these tough emotions? Will they ever end? Have you found alternatives to emotional eating, but are now dealing with confronting these emotions for the first time without the ability to use food as a buffer? Listen now for some tips on handling this part of the food peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Intuitive Eating: a way of experiencing food WITHOUT food rules… following your inner wisdom to determine what and how much to eat.
  • Our relationship with food MIRRORS how we relate to the world!
  • Intuitive eating will lead to experiencing a more intuitive life in ALL regards.
  • Learning how to eat intuitively in response to hunger and fullness cues, learning to tolerate emotions without food, and learning how to type on the computer without looking at the keys are all similar experiences!! (Listen for the full metaphor… it makes sense, I promise!) It all may feel a bit obsessive at first, or carry a sense of hyper-awareness… but you’re learning a new skill, and that’s okay! It will calm down and feel more natural eventually.
  • Do we always need to feel all of our feelings?? Yes and no.
  • Manage your emotions like you’re making holes in a volcano! Find ways to release before you explode. Work with a therapist or counselor to help you find ways to release your emotions that work for you.
  • We must acknowledge and honor the trauma we’ve experienced! Work with a therapist to process this trauma.
  • Sometimes being aware ALL of the time of our hard emotions can be exhausting! Sometimes we have to distract ourselves from our emotions so that we can get things done. Just don’t let them build up or rely on these distraction techniques too heavily!

Show Notes:

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 59

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Did healing your relationship with food result in weight gain? Are you angry that healing your relationship with food has made you gain this weight? Do you feel judged based on the weight gain? Listen now for some ways to deal with this part of the food and body peace journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • It’s Eating Disorder Awareness Week! It’s time we tackle our cultural eating disorder recovery and speak out about the seriousness of eating disorders.
  • Dieting is a part of the eating disorder experience… if diets weren’t normalized, we would have fewer eating disorders!
  • On March 1st start looking for #ChangeTheGame!! Let’s change the conversation around dieting. Dieting is NOT healthy eating.
  • YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!
  • Eating disorders kill more people than any other mental illness. One person dies every 23 hours from an eating disorder.
  • The Canary in the Coal Mine metaphor:
    • Coal miners used to bring canaries down into the coal mines with them. If the canaries were singing, the coal miners knew they were safe. Once the singing stopped though, that was the coal miners’ cue to get out quickly before the toxic gas killed them too.
    • We live in a toxic environment focused on the thin ideal… some people are impacted much more quickly or intensely than others, and they develop eating disorders (the canaries). They are our warning to fix our toxic environment before it gets us too (the coal miners).
  • Many people who go through classic eating disorder treatment receive a meal plan from their dietitians to guide their eating in recovery. This system may be flawed though, and potentially damaging, and we are actually discovering that we may be able to use intuitive eating much earlier in eating disorder recovery than we initially thought!
  • What exactly is a “set healthy weight?” We really have no clue what any single person is supposed to weigh. At certain points in eating disorder recovery this “set-point” can be an important number, and is determined by past weight experiences… but it’s very difficult to actually pin this number down.
  • Our “healthy weight” CHANGES based on our age and other life factors!
  • Some research indicates that being in larger body as we get older can be protective.
  • It’s time we change our thought process on what weight indicates!
  • Trying to manipulate someone’s weight is going to negatively impact their behaviors.
  • What if the enemy is not food at all, and the enemies are really body hate, the need for control, the value attached to body perception, and the value we hold for the judgment others place on our bodies?
  • We do an activity from When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies, a book that approaches recovery from a feminist perspective. How would we lead our lives if we lived in a world where all bodies were valued, no matter their size? What if we were all considered important and precious the way we are now?
  • We DON’T know what anyone’s weight is actually supposed to be, and we probably never will. We just need to accept where our body is at, no matter what. We don’t have to fight against our bodies.
  • We need you in this world, as you are now.
  • Food is NOT the enemy!

Show Notes:

  • Link to subscribe to the weekly FREE Food Peace Newsletter. It is sent out every Tuesday morning and no spam EVER. By signing up, I will also send you Love Food’s Season 1’s Food Peace Syllabus.
  • Overcoming Overeating: How to Break the Diet/Binge Cycle and Live a Healthier, More Satisfying Life by Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter  —> This week’s Food Peace Syllabus addition #1
  • When Women Stop Hating Their Bodies: Freeing Yourself from Food and Weight Obsession by Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter —> This week’s Food Peace Syllabus addition #2
  • Love, Food Episode 22 with Dr. Maria Paredes
  • Eating Disorder Dietitians
  • Julie Dillon RD blog

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 43

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Are you ready to heal your relationship with food yet stuck?? How do you make amends with food and your body when disordered eating is all you’ve known? Are you ready to make a change yet unsure of the steps? Listen now for a new set of directions.

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Key Points:

  • Julie needs your letters! Send your letter detailing your complicated relationship with Food to LoveFoodPodcast@Gmail.com.
  • You’ve been fighting for many years and I appreciate that is exhausting!
  • The doctor’s comment did not cause this struggle yet totally F-ed it up! Doctors pointing out fat bodies as wrong happens too often and leads to distrusting the body and feeling unacceptable. I wish health providers knew their power to prevent eating disorders especially when a mom brings her child in concerned about disordered eating. To health providers: don’t say they should lose weight or exercise more!!
  • Shame in the food choices: food dichotomy doesn’t promote health. Food isn’t supposed to have this much power and pride.
  • Food gets too much power. It doesn’t deserve it!
  • Bulimia’s behaviors promote fluid shifts, puffiness, and body shame.
  • Relationships heal this. They are much more important and valuable than this eating disorder.
  • Next steps are painful BUT all worth it because recovery will allow these relationships to continue to blossom and fulfill your life.
  • You need to choose from a “healthy” weight loss journey OR eating disorder recovery? Can’t have both. We can’t make peace with food AND pursue weight loss. Pursuing weight loss will only enhance eating disorder behavior and negative body image.
  • Healthy relationships are not compatible with the eating disorder.
  • Unconditional acceptance and respect is what is missing.
  • Take it slow. Day by day. Surround yourself with helpers. Be mindful to pick a helper that is body positive.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Dieting + PCOS can promote eating disorders

Have PCOS? You can make peace with food too. Let's navigate this.
Have PCOS? You can make peace with food too. Let’s navigate this.

This week’s blog is doing cartwheels around the possibility of PCOS and food peace. I hope you find this information invigorating and revolutionary. If you have PCOS, please know you don’t have to punish yourself anymore. You can find health without diets!

Dieting, PCOS, and Eating Disorders

I am primarily an eating disorder behavior expert. My training in nutrition and counseling helps me understand the root of client pathological connections to food. Although not always understood, eating disorders have the highest fatality rate of all mental illnesses. Eating disorder research is providing answers to the question, “Why!?!” The textbook eating disorder recipe: genetic predisposition, negative body image, and a change in eating habits (here’s an article explaining this).

Negative body image occurs frequently with PCOS. Remember that facial hair, balding, and fat tummy? Not exactly fitting cultural ideals of beauty. Combine that with weight stigma and most women with PCOS dislike their body. Of course they will try everything to change it. Why is it so hard though?

Most women with PCOS have insulin resistance (IR). Of important note, insulin levels are tremendously higher in PCOS compared to folks with type 2 diabetes. This means women with PCOS feel more chaotic from IR. Insulin is a growth hormone so when it is high a person’s weight will not go down unless doing something drastic. I refer to this as extreme dieting and won’t go into details. I do witness women with PCOS losing weight from these methods yet the weight always comes back. This sucks yet what is even worse is it starts diet → binge cycle.

And an eating disorder is born.

From here, genetics take over whether it becomes anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, or binge eating disorder or subclinical disordered eating. None are health promoting. Remember, eating disorders have the highest fatality rate of any mental illness. We don’t know a person’s genetics by looking at them. We do know women with PCOS typically have the other 2 parts to the eating disorder receipe: negative body image and change in eating habits.

Numerous twin studies suggest the more a person diets the more disordered their eating (article explaining many here).

Why are we prescribing a method (diets), that has no scientific proof to work and can cause a mental health condition with the highest fatality rate?

Keep asking this question because we must find a better solution. Women with PCOS: you deserve a better one.

Click here to see Part 3 of this series: Stop Yo Yo Dieting to Help Treat Your PCOS