My mom criticizes my body and food choices. (Episode 114)

What do we do when our foundation for Food Peace™ is rooted in negative self-talk and shame? How do we find make peace with our body when those around us are hyper-critical of our appearance? Listen now to get my tips on how to handle this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Caregivers have a HUGE impact on our sense of self-worth and the development of positive self-talk. If our primary caregiver is a critical voice in our lives, we are unable to create our own internal compassionate voice.
  • If we have a caregiver with a personality disorder, it can be doubly hard to assert your right to your body. Personality disorders can be super rigid, and it’s important to set boundaries around what is and isn’t allowed. Tell this person that you won’t talk about food and body with them anymore, period!
  • Specifically, having a primary caregiver with narcissistic personality disorder can really effect your ability to have a peaceful relationship with food and our body.
  • Our relationship with food MIRRORS our relationship with other aspects of our lives!
  • Experiencing a foundation of criticism related to our body will have a lasting impact on how we view our body.
  • The “shoulding” inner voice aims to shame us! It’s important to react like a rebellious teenager to these shoulding voices.
  • When we deprive our bodies, they react by seeking out large amounts of highly palatable foods. This is the way our body tries to save us! It’s important to reframe these experiences as something shameful, to something necessary for survival.
  • Compassionate curiosity is the foundation to Food Peace™. Seek out safe spaces to further enhance this journey, including online groups, therapists, and more.

Show Notes:

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I have an abusive relationship with food. {guest Anita Johnson}

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Do you consider food to be your enemy or a waste of time? Are you tired of struggling with body image, yo-yo dieting, and food hate? Do you desperately want to embrace intuitive eating, but are too afraid of leaving behind the safety of an eating disorder? Listen now for a breakdown of how to confront these common food peace dilemmas.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Anita Johnston joins to talk recovery!
  • We live in a world of PARADOX… it’s about food, but it’s also not about food at the same time!!
  • So how are our food issues not about food? This struggle is a messenger to let us know that there are other issues going on in our lives… what other hungers are we starving for??
  • What is the symbolic nature of our food struggle? If we struggle with food restriction, it’s important to look at other areas in our lives where we are restricting. If we struggle with binge eating, it’s important to ask where else we feel scarcity in our lives.
  • How do we create a peace-keeping force in our lives? We explore compassionate curiosity, rather than judgment.
  • The foundation to food peace is compassionate curiosity!!
  • How do we discern our symbolic hungers??
  • First we need to change our patterns in our lives… then we can tackle the patterns in our relationship with food.
  • So how do we crack the code on our food behaviors??
    • Sugary foods usually indicate that we are needing sweetness in our lives, either from ourselves or others.
    • Salty and crunchy foods generally indicate repressed anger and frustration.
    • Warm foods mean we are yearning for emotional warmth.
    • Spicy foods are often connected to a desire or fear of excited, stimulation, or change.
    • Chocolate is all about sex, romance, and sexuality.
  • So what next? After we explore our metaphorical relationship with food, how do we reconcile that information with our everyday lives?
  • We’re the experts of our bodies!! We’re the only ones that really can understand what the food metaphors mean.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.