I want to hide my bad habits from my kids {with Lindsay Stenovec}

Do you deal with binge eating? Did you experience bullying, specifically within your own family, that relates to your body shape or size? Have you experienced sexual abuse, and feel that it has impacted your relationship with food and your body? Are you trying to set a healthy example for your own children after having a difficult relationship with food in your past? Listen now for some expert advice on how to cope with these body trust struggles.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • Sometimes our family environments can be just as toxic as this culture that we live in… remember, we ALL live in diet culture!! But that doesn’t make our family’s actions okay.
  • Abuse, physical or mental, can have a profound impact on our relationship with food and our body.
  • Lindsay Stenovec of The Nurtured Mama joins to talk about the complex interactions of motherhood and our relationship with food!
  • Processing this kind of trauma is essential… find a therapist to work through these difficult emotions and to help you cope with your past!
  • Sometimes we use food to cope with our emotions… this is totally understandable, but we can take steps to help heal this part of our relationship with food if we find it interfering with us living our lives.
  • We are all doing the very best that we can under our own circumstances! This doesn’t make us a failure or a fraud.
  • How do we feed others when we’ve had such a fraught relationship with food and body ourselves?
  • As parents, we do our best to shield our children from pain, especially from pain that we have experienced ourselves. Many mamas are trying to shield their children from the pain that they themselves experienced in relation to food and body… but sometimes this backfires when parents do so by trying to get their children to lose weight or to eat in a “perfect” way.
  • Feeling acceptable is SO important to finding body peace and body trust! Instead of repeating the same cycle of trying to control your own child’s food intake or body shape, focus on the unconditional acceptance you have for your child and help them to foster this body acceptance in themselves, no matter the outside influences.
  • We should ALWAYS feel safe at home, even if we live in diet-culture world!
  • We’re all just doing the best that we can!!
  • What does it mean to eat in a “healthy” way? How do we make peace with food and our bodies?
  • Ellyn Satter’s definition of normal eating is a helpful resource!!
  • Healthy eating is more about being connected to life, not about what we put in our bodies.
  • Our relationship with food and our bodies is about very complicated, difficult, and personal truths. It has to do with the food, but it also doesn’t! Our past has a HUGE impact on all of this, and it’s SO important to find support around figuring all of this stuff out. Find a trauma, Health at Every Size, and eating-disorder-trained therapist or dietitian to help you along this journey!!
  • Raising children brings up the difficult parts in ourselves that still need more work.
  • Going to therapy is a BRAVE choice! It is hard, but it gives us the tools to move forward in our lives and find healing.
  • Stress, discomfort, and feeling like a fraud are messages from our body! These emotions mean there is something that needs to be addressed within.
  • Secretive eating, shame, and hiding of food is an understandable reaction to growing up in an environment that body and food shamed you! The important question is not, “How do I stop,” but, “What do these actions tell me about my needs?”
  • Sometimes we don’t learn sustainable coping skills as a child… therapy can help us bolster our toolbox of coping mechanisms as adults!
  • Normal eating is FLEXIBLE!!! Normal eating is trusting our body to make up for our “mistakes” in our eating, and being compassionate about our choices.
  • In the end, it is JUST food.
  • When you trust your body to take care of yourself, it’ll do the best that it can.

Show Notes:

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 56 with Joanne and Jonah Soolman

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Have you been told that following diets and maintaining a certain weight is necessary to be healthy? Do you find that rejecting diets feels difficult because of the culture we live in? Are you thinking about cutting out certain foods to help manage a health issue? Listen now for some help with these varied obstacles to #FoodPeace.

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Key Points:

  • Intuitive eating: a way to relate to food without dieting, relying on your own hunger and fullness cues to decide when to eat and how much to eat, unconditional permission to eat what you need and want, and finding ways to deal with our emotions without food.
  • Medical Nutrition Therapy (MNT): when someone use food to help manage their disease and prevent disease progression.
  • Joanne and Jonah Soolman of Soolman Nutrition and Wellness join to discuss disease management using nutrition and intuitive eating!
  • Coming out of dieting and entering intuitive eating can be really difficult! It’s a huge mindset shift, and some people may feel ambivalent about the transition.
    • Intuitive eating is complete 180 degree shift from diet culture, which is something we have been taught from a super young age. Diet culture includes “truths” such as fat is unhealthy etc. It makes sense that we might have strong feelings in opposing directions (ambivalence)… the research doesn’t support diets, but dies are what we’ve been taught to believe in. So what now?
    • By recognizing ambivalence, we can help individuals empower themselves to make their own decision!
  • People who are considered “overweight” or “obese” have healthier outcomes when they engage in healthy behaviors, regardless of weight.
  • Dieting is an all or nothing approach! Sometimes this leads people to feel like they’re going to go out of control with food when they give up dieting for good and shift to intuitive eating.
  • When we leave dieting behind, it may actually feel like a void has been created. This attachment and anxiety is normal!
  • Intuitive eating takes time!!! Generally speaking, if someone is completely recovered from an eating disorder, it takes about a year to move through all of the intuitive eating principles.
  • Fear of weight gain can be a huge deterrent for people to commit to intuitive eating.
  • Intuitive eating is a process, so be patient and let it work itself out!
  • How do we deal with feeling like our weight is causing us physical pain?
    • We have to consider that weight may not be the issue. Bodies get older, and this makes them hurt. It may not be the weight at all, and it might be more beneficial to try and strengthen certain muscles or change up exercise routines to alleviate stress on the body.
    • We also have to not make weight the focal point. 95% of diets fail, and most people regain more weight than was lost… so if you try to lose weight to help alleviate chronic pain, you may actually make it worse in the long run!
    • Thin people have joint and knee pain at a certain age… it isn’t necessarily the weight!
    • There are other ways to relieve pain! Doctors, physical therapists, Advil…
  • Can you name one disease that fat people have that thin people don’t? NO!
  • How do we explore managing a disease with our food?
    • First we have to meet our essential food needs (Ellyn Satter’s Hierarchy of Food Needs)… intuitive eating is part of these essential, baseline needs!
    • Medical Nutrition Therapy: managing a medical condition through food. It is a part of our food needs as well, but it is at the very top of pyramid, and one of the last things to worry about.
    • If you have chronic, rather than acute health conditions, allow yourself to build a solid foundation in intuitive eating. Once you are secure in that, then you can add MNT in! Otherwise MNT could spiral into just another diet.
  • Be careful when trying to cut out foods in the name of health! There’s a lot of dietary guidelines out there that are extremely restrictive, and extreme restriction leads to bingeing.
  • Disease is gradual. One cookie or one milkshake is not going to cause the onset of diabetes, for example.
  • We must work through our fear of deprivation before we make food choices in the name of health.
  • TRUST THE PROCESS! THINGS ARE NEVER LINEAR!!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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The Love Food Podcast Episode 32: Mixed messages about food

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Were you raised with mixed messages around food? Told to not enjoy pleasurable food and yet got encouragement to bond over the same items? I bet you’re exhausted! Listen now for a different way.

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Key Points:

  • Have PCOS and looking for more tools to work toward Food Peace? If you live near Greensboro NC you are in luck! Give us a call for details 336.273.2808 x 0.
  • Food is pleasurable as a means of survival.
  • Healthy eating includes pleasure. Eating feels good and that keeps us alive and well.
  • If food did not feel good then we wouldn’t have survived. Eating food that is just fuel and never pleasurable denies a part of our physiological need.
  • Honor the pleasure that comes from food.
  • There’s just one version of you…not a fat version vs skinny version.
  • Have a son or daughter in a larger body or have a child that really enjoys eating?? Is it pecking at your own food experiences or negative body image? Take care of your own shit to not pass it on.
  • Are you a competent eater?
  • Yo-yo diets harm health.
  • You’re not broken our culture is. We need to rewrite our truths about our body and our food.
  • Honor all the sizes you have experienced as the safe keeper for your soul.
  • Shame never promotes health.
  • You are acceptable just the way you are right now.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series. Give me feedback via Twitter @EatingPermitRD.