(183) Let’s fill your Food Peace toolbox

Let’s fill your Food Peace toolbox for the holidays. This episode sifts through grounding and disconnecting tools to have on standby. Remember, disconnection is your superpower, not something to be ashamed of. Listen here now for more.

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(182) Remember: You don’t need to be fixed.

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Looking for more Food Peace? Want to help support the Love Food Podcast? Check out my new After the Letters Project on Patreon. I have exclusive weekly mini-episodes for $29/month and other freebies. Find more at Patreon.com/LoveFoodPodcast

This episode is brought to you by my courses: PCOS and Food Peace and Dietitians PCOS and Food Peace. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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The Worn Out Caregiver Holiday Survival Guide

Holiday pressures lead many of us to rely on mile long to-do lists, with attendant feelings of inferiority rather than attending to self-care. Don’t you just love the warm fuzzy holiday feelings of peace and joy?!? (Sarcasm intended.)

Many caregivers feel the month of December is all about providing experiences for everyone else, and typical self-care strategies just don’t fit in. This month, many people put themselves on the bottom of the priority list. While this may help your family attend more holiday parties or have more decorations around the house, ignoring self-care has its consequences. For example, attending your regular weekly yoga class may be tough to squeeze in, yet doing so will help you feel less stressed, sleep better, and be more present this holiday. Remember, self-care is not selfish.

In order to promote health and mindfulness, consider these three sanity saving pointers:

Have One Hot Meal Sitting Down Per Day

I remember that, when my children were infants, I rarely sat down. As the primary caregiver, I was constantly attending to their needs. I have memories of changing diapers, feeding them, keeping them from pinching the dog, keeping them out of the cat litter, and otherwise protecting this fragile new human. I was sleep deprived, and constantly ate on the run–with one hand. If I couldn’t eat something with one hand, I didn’t eat it. And I wondered why I felt like a chaotic mess!

I read a recommendation from Geneen Roth that changed a big portion of my self-care. She wrote that we all need to sit down and eat one hot meal on a real plate each day. The food choice wasn’t important; rather, it was the time spent sitting and focusing on the meal that was important. This recommendation spoke to me, because I connected with this being an opportunity to nurture and nourish my mind, body and spirit. And, oh boy, I needed that!

Even during chaotic holiday schedules, be sure to give yourself at least one eating opportunity each day to eat mindfully, focusing on just that. You’ll find that it calms you and reenergizes you– so you can continue to keep your little human from sticking metal into electrical outlets or eating the dog food.

Stay Off Pinterest and Other Ways to Avoid Comparison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I think this quote by Theodore Roosevelt needs to be on the Pinterest disclaimer page. Holiday traditions and activities involve limitless options for creativity. This is cool–for those who love hodge podging or baking decadent desserts–yet it can lead the rest of us down the dark dreary place of comparison and perfectionism.

Instead of looking into what everyone else is doing, consider the holiday traditions that give you the most joyful feelings. What do you remember as a kid that you want to pass on? Give yourself permission to pick the ones, if any, that you have the mental bandwidth for this holiday season. Resist the urge to search online for what you should be doing. Focus on what you want to do, and practice being okay with limiting the choices. To do this, you may want to avoid some social media, like Pinterest or Facebook, until the urge to compare goes away.

By the way, I love this recommendation so much that I’m deleting the Pinterest app from my phone as I type this! Wheee, that felt good!

Move Your Body in a Way that Feels Good

Human bodies are meant to move, and I don’t mean on treadmills in the “no pain no gain” fashion. Our bodies are designed for movement to promote health and well-being.  Our body also has ways of letting us know that the movement we’ve chosen is one worth repeating by the pleasure it gives us.  By staying aware of your body’s response, you’ll know what your body needs and wants. You’ll know that you’re moving in the right direction (nice pun, right?!?) when the movement feels good.

As you experience the holiday, notice what your body is craving. Do you want to dance to your favorite holiday songs? Take a nighttime stroll to admire the lights? Do you crave stillness? Attend to your body’s desire to move or not, and you’ll notice more connection to the present–and less chaos with what life throws your way.

Happy holidays friends!

Love Food’s Favorite Things

It is a constant musical at my house since my kids love dancing and singing show tunes. “These are a few of my favorite things!” is winding its way through my head as I share with you Love Food’s Holiday Favorite Things. I hope they help you zap diets as their barrage starts this January.

  1. Why say it when your T-shirt can do it for you?!? You can shove that fad diet up your ass t-shirt could only be worn away from my kiddos although they know how I feel about diets: they promote harm not health. Turn up your anti-diet sass with this one from the Sarcastic Nutritionist. {{It has just come to my attention this shirt only goes to size XL and a small one at that. I hate that I missed this! Will do better next year picking a t-shirt that in more body inclusive.}}
  2. You’ve heard me say it 100 times: I just want you to feel at home in your own skin. My colleagues over at Be Nourished have a similar saying: Body Trust® is your birthright. Self acceptance is radical and political just like I mention in Love Food episode 99. That’s why we need to shout to the world: ALL BODIES ARE GOOD BODIES! Say it with art with this beautiful Be Nourished and Jennifer Price Davis collaboration: Body Trust Angel®.
  3. My favorite gifts include giving back. Have you heard about PCOS? Well, 1 in 10 women experience PCOS yet it is greatly underfunded and under diagnosed. Sasha Ottey is a woman working to change that through PCOS Challenge, a nonprofit support organization globally advancing the cause for women and girls with PCOS. I got to meet up with Sasha, the founder and director of PCOS Challenge, at BEDA a few weeks ago and what a privilege! She fights for more research and meets with lawmakers ALL. THE. TIME. to improve PCOS diagnosis, treatment, and funding. And, she is body positive, weight inclusive, and non-diet. Consider giving to this amazing organization that is truly making a difference. Here is a pic of Sasha and me after my BEDA talk on PCOS, binge eating disorder, and weight stigma. Thank you Sasha for ALL you do for many!
  4. I encourage you to read magazines that help you feel nourished, fed, and empowered rather than catty, judged, or less than. Have you seen the magazine Flow? I was packing for a long flight this summer and wanted something to read. I appreciated that I would also be dividing my time convincing our kids to not yell “POOOOOP!” while kicking the seats in front of them. Instead of a book I found magazines that are meant to take a long time to read. Luckily, I also packed my noise cancelling head phones so I didn’t have to hear my kids and dove into this magazine. I am asking my partner to get a subscription for me this Christmas. Check it out and I think you will enjoy it too. Here’s a pic of the 2 Flow magazines I am STILL doting on. I have the smallest bed side table so it means a lot when something is chosen to be there. p.s. I made my bed in this pic so you think I do everyday 😂😜.
  5. When you are tired of constantly re-directing diet talk, throw this beauty on by Jai at her store Fat Mermaids. While the acronym may get lost on some, it will surely deliver its intended message to those who can decipher it. Do you know a Susan who needs this message? I do! I think this sweatshirt would look smashing tied preppy fashion around your neck over the Sarcastic Nutritionist T.

What are your favorite body liberating (my favorite term from Jes Baker!) and Food Peace™ promoting gifts to give?

 

 

The Worn Out Mom Holiday Survival Guide

Mom Holiday SurvivalHoliday pressures lead many of us to rely on mile long to-do lists, with attendant feelings of inferiority rather than attending to self-care. Don’t you just love the warm fuzzy holiday feelings of peace and joy?!? (Sarcasm intended.)

Many moms feel the month of December is all about providing experiences for everyone else, and typical self-care strategies just don’t fit in. This month, many people put themselves on the bottom of the priority list. While this may help your family attend more holiday parties or have more decorations around the house, ignoring self-care has its consequences. For example, attending your regular weekly yoga class may be tough to squeeze in, yet doing so will help you feel less stressed, sleep better, and be more present this holiday. Remember, self-care is not selfish.

In order to promote health and mindfulness, consider these three sanity saving pointers:

Have One Hot Meal Sitting Down Per Day

I remember that, when my children were infants, I rarely sat down. As the primary caregiver, I was constantly attending to their needs. I have memories of changing diapers, feeding them, keeping them from pinching the dog, keeping them out of the cat litter, and otherwise protecting this fragile new human. I was sleep deprived, and constantly ate on the run–with one hand. If I couldn’t eat something with one hand, I didn’t eat it. And I wondered why I felt like a chaotic mess!

I read a recommendation from Geneen Roth that changed a big portion of my self-care. She wrote that we all need to sit down and eat one hot meal on a real plate each day. The food choice wasn’t important; rather, it was the time spent sitting and focusing on the meal that was important. This recommendation spoke to me, because I connected with this being an opportunity to nurture and nourish my mind, body and spirit. And, oh boy, I needed that!

Even during chaotic holiday schedules, be sure to give yourself at least one eating opportunity each day to eat mindfully, focusing on just that. You’ll find that it calms you and reenergizes you– so you can continue to keep your little human from sticking metal into electrical outlets or eating the dog food.

Stay Off Pinterest and Other Ways to Avoid Comparison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” I think this quote by Theodore Roosevelt needs to be on the Pinterest disclaimer page. Holiday traditions and activities involve limitless options for creativity. This is cool–for those who love hodge podging or baking decadent desserts–yet it can lead the rest of us down the dark dreary place of comparison and perfectionism.

Instead of looking into what everyone else is doing, consider the holiday traditions that give you the most joyful feelings. What do you remember as a kid that you want to pass on? Give yourself permission to pick the ones, if any, that you have the mental bandwidth for this holiday season. Resist the urge to search online for what you should be doing. Focus on what you want to do, and practice being okay with limiting the choices. To do this, you may want to avoid some social media, like Pinterest or Facebook, until the urge to compare goes away.

By the way, I love this recommendation so much that I’m deleting the Pinterest app from my phone as I type this! Wheee, that felt good!

Move Your Body in a Way that Feels Good

Human bodies are meant to move, and I don’t mean on treadmills in the “no pain no gain” fashion. Our bodies are designed for movement to promote health and well-being.  Our body also has ways of letting us know that the movement we’ve chosen is one worth repeating by the pleasure it gives us.  By staying aware of your body’s response, you’ll know what your body needs and wants. You’ll know that you’re moving in the right direction (nice pun, right?!?) when the movement feels good.

As you experience the holiday, notice what your body is craving. Do you want to dance to your favorite holiday songs? Take a nighttime stroll to admire the lights? Do you crave stillness? Attend to your body’s desire to move or not, and you’ll notice more connection to the present–and less chaos with what life throws your way.

Happy holidays friends!