Food, you have always helped me feel comforted. But I can’t accept that. {Episode 101}

Has diet culture kept you from making real Food Peace™? Did you think you were making progress, only to find yourself struggling again? Listen now to hear a letter from someone struggling with the same thing, and get my take on how to overcome this part of the Food Peace™ journey.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We live in a world suffering from it’s own eating disorder!
  • Diet culture has infiltrated our society, and the majority of us suffer because of it. 
  • Intuitive eating is a super important step in the food peace journey! There’s lots of research out there now that illustrates how intuitive eating promotes health.
  • Cultural fatphobia: you’re only acceptable if your body stays acceptable.
  • If your body doesn’t get enough food (which is what happens when a family member restricts our access to it), we feel deprived, and we respond by bingeing and hoarding food.
  • When we give ourselves permission to embrace food in whatever way we need to, we open the door for food peace and remove the threat of deprivation enough to be mindful about our needs.
  • We as human beings yearn for acceptance… and that’s one of the reasons we are so vulnerable to diets! They promise us that when we lose weight, we’ll finally fit in and be accepted. But this isn’t true! Not only will diets not give you lasting weight loss, but they also won’t give you lasting happiness.
  • Trauma can have a huge impact on our food peace journey, so be sure to honor that.
  • Know that making peace and “letting yourself go” with food DOESN’T mean you’re giving up… it means you’re letting yourself be.
  • Our relationship with food isn’t health or unhealthy… things aren’t so black and white! The way we relate to food is COMPLEX!!
  • What would happen if we accepted our bingeing behaviors?
  • Food is meant to be pleasurable and comforting! Unfortunately we often demonize that part of our relationship with food, but that really isn’t fair. Can we honor the ways food comforts us?
  • Bingeing is just a way our body lets us know that there’s an unmet need… and the bingeing helps us! It helps us stay alive, it helps comfort us, and it helps us survive.
  • It’s important to challenge beauty ideals and call out diet culture and oppression. Seek out support on social media to help you on that journey!
  • You deserve happiness in the skin you’re in today!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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I have to diet with PCOS…right?!? Let’s explore PCOS + Food Peace.

What is Food Peace™ in the context of struggling with PCOS? Listen now to hear my PCOS and Food Peace Manifesto.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • What IS Food Peace™ and PCOS anyway? What if we’ve been told to eat this, not that, in order to manage our PCOS? How do we move away from that kind of thinking?
  • Do some of us end up engaging in anorexia nervosa trying to manage our PCOS? Yes! Especially if we’re in larger bodies.
  • People in larger bodies are urged to practice eating behaviors that we diagnose as disordered in smaller bodies… this is a problem! It also points to how fatphobic our society is.
  • Dieting increases inflammation, which is one of the biggest issues with PCOS.
  • At least one in ten women suffer from PCOS, but there’s minimal research funding for it. We need to get more information on this condition!
  • So what’s Food Peace™? Food Peace is coming to terms that diets don’t work for you, and understanding that diets are the failure, not you.
  • It’s time to find a new way to eat, and listen to your bodies for the answers! Women with PCOS have a different kind of communication with their body, and it’s my job to guide you through learning that mode of communication.
  • If you’re in a place where you’re struggling to manage your PCOS, you may feel like you’re ALWAYS hungry. The Food Peace process is about reconnecting with your intuitive self and learning what that feeling of being always hungry really means.
  • Dieting predicts weight gain and eating disorders, and intuitive eating leads to positive health outcomes. So really, which one is better for our health?
  • Here’s my PCOS and Food Peace Manifesto:
    • You didn’t cause your PCOS!
    • Diets failed, not you! Diets are a form of restriction, so it’s no wonder you feel like you can’t control yourself around food.
    • Your weight doesn’t define your health or your worth.
    • Your PCOS has its own language.
    • Notice what helps energize you, and what doesn’t.
    • Self-care matters, and so does advocacy.
  • 25% of our health is due to behaviors, and 75% of our health are determined by social determinants of health and our genetics… this means that stigma and discrimination have a HUGE impact on our health! Specifically, weight stigma contributes to inflammation and poor health due to the fight or flight response.
  • There are SO many of us out there ready to help you fight weight stigma in PCOS healthcare. Come join us!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

I’m tired of fighting the world to not diet. I’m tempted to try again.

Are you feeling tempted by all of the New Years diet talk? Do you know diets don’t work, and yet find yourself thinking that maybe this time it’ll be different? Listen now for my reminders on why intuitive eating and Food Peace™ are the way to true empowerment and health.

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This episode is brought to you by my online course, Your Step-by-Step Guide to PCOS and Food Peace™. Sign up now to get on the waitlist for the next enrollment period in January 2018, and receive my FREE road map: Your First 3 Steps Toward Food Peace™ with PCOS. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how.

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We know that diets don’t work long-term… and yet, the New Year brings the tempting diet message to the forefront, especially for those of us in larger bodies that face weight stigma.
  • What is intuitive eating? How can it help us to find Food Peace™?
  • The more we try to restrict, the more we feel chaotic around food, and the more likely we are to experience weight gain and eating disorders.
  • This process of Food Peace™ is SO much harder if we live in a larger body!
  • Diets are this big, seductive fantasy designed to keep us stuck in ideas around what makes us worthy.
  • Let’s find a way to make our bodies acceptable right NOW.
  • Diets also hold this idea of hope for connection and acceptance, which is part of what makes it so tempting.
  • I believe in body liberation and body autonomy… you can do what you want with your body! But I still encourage you, when you feel the pull of dieting, to consider what triggered that thought process. Investigate it, and if the root of it is yearning to connect with others, consider that connection is what you really want, not weight loss.
  • Working towards radical self-acceptance can feel isolating! Remember that part of the seduction of dieting is hope for connection and acceptance to and from others.
  • People in larger bodies are often praised for seeking out weight loss. It can help you feel more accepted and create a mode of connection… but that doesn’t mean it’s the right way forward.
  • It’s possible that diets are trying to help you meet unmet needs of acceptance and connections. Diving deeper into the WHY is so important!!
  • Shame is likely a part of this as well, so investigate that and unwrap the true motivations behind this urge.
  • Ask yourself, what are you really yearning for?

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Dear Diets, You F*cking Suck. {Ep 099 Season 1 Finale}

Food Peace™ is political, radical, and important. I’ve made mistakes and I am ready to plow ahead. Are you ready to stand up against diet culture with me? Listen now to my Dear Diets letter, and get fired up with me!

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Episode’s Key Points:

  • We’ve come to the end of Season 1 of the Love, Food Podcast, and to close us out, I’m going to be reading a letter written by me, straight to diets.
  • It’s time to dismantle diet culture, and I need your help. Send me your Dear, Food letter for next season to lovefoodpodcast@gmail.com. I’m looking forward to hearing them!
  • Don’t forget to subscribe to the show, and leave a rating and review. It’s so important to leave a rating and review, as it helps people who are struggling with their relationship with food and body to find the podcast.
  • “A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative in women’s history; a quietly mad population is a tractable one.” – Namoi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  • We should all be raising our children as feminists.
  • Food IS political, and dieting IS political. We HAVE to talk about politics and feminism if we hope to dismantle diet culture and the patriarchy for good.
  • Diets have condemned certain body sizes, and they have distracted all of us from experiencing true joy in our lives and with food. Diets keep us from experiencing connection and joy with others! Diets tell us we aren’t worthy of love until we’re the “right” size. But none of the things diets tell us are true.
  • Diet culture pretends to be about health, and even has begun to feel like a religion. Diets have gone way too far.
  • Diets predict weight gain and eating disorders!
  • People who oppose diets, and the damage that they do, are coming together. The next generation of psychologists, dietitians, and health professionals will take diet culture down!!
  • We need to teach health professionals about weight bias and weight stigma. It’s harmful to our health, even more-so than eating that french fry.
  • Diets are sneaky manipulators, so smart that sometimes we don’t even know we’re being manipulated.
  • It’s time to engage in our politics, understand our privilege, and stand up to diet and body oppression. It’s time for us all to feel more at home in our own skin, and to end the normalization of diets and fatphobia. See you in 2018!

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

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Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.

How do I get my family to understand my Food Peace™ journey? {Ep 98 with Carolyn Ross}

Are the people around you supportive of your food peace journey? Have you found a better way with intuitive eating, but are coming up against a roadblock with family and friends? Listen now for some tips on how to approach this part of the food peace journey.

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This episode is brought to you by my online course, Your Step-by-Step Guide to PCOS and Food Peace. Sign up now to get on the waitlist for the next enrollment period in January 2018, and receive my FREE road map: Your First 3 Steps Toward Food Peace with PCOS. You CAN make peace with food even with PCOS and I want to show you how.

Episode’s Key Points:

  • Making peace with food is RADICAL! It’s truly a political act, and this can cause issues within our family relationships.
  • Health is about FLEXIBILITY!!
  • Dr. Carolyn Ross joins us to talk about the family, and how to manage family members who try to be our food police.
  • Food rules contribute to the development of eating disorders, especially if there’s a perceived “weight problem.”
  • Make sure not to go too long without eating throughout the day, and add some movement into your life to enhance how your body feels!
  • Intercept questions about your food choices and your body size by making some healthy boundaries. Let them know you’re working on things with a doctor or dietitian, and leave it at that.
  • You’re allowed to be angry! Feel your feelings, and don’t feel like you have to push them down to appease family members.
  • Remember, many of us struggle with internalized fatphobia. Be sure to address this with a treatment provider so that you can work through it!
  • Our weight research is super biased!! You can be healthy at any size… it depends on our BEHAVIORS, not our weight.
  • Research shows that the healthiest weight you can be is “slightly overweight!!”
  • The medical profession changes slowly and shifts in the medical community take time. The status quo will change eventually!
  • Permission promotes health, and shame only brings us down.

Show Notes:

Do you have a complicated relationship with food? I want to help! Send your Dear Food letter to LoveFoodPodcast@gmail.com. 

Click here to leave me a review in iTunes and subscribe. This type of kindness helps the show continue!

Thank you for listening to the Love, Food series.